Dad Bod’s & Fat Women

Hey feminists, great to have you.

Gender equality, body shaming, and sexism.

Are you uncomfortable yet? If so, why? These are all things that everyone wants to talk about, are they not? So why is it so taboo to actually speak your mind about them?

These issues have been at the forefront of worldwide concerns for a long time. But, to be honest, they will probably never be stopped. Which is somewhat of a startling truth for a lot of people.

I will start this off by stating that I do not, in any way, have a nice body. And that’s okay. I’m comfortable with who I am, as you should be. My weight fluctuates constantly, but I exercise regularly, eat properly, and, for the most part, get a decent nights sleep. Which means, in my own mind, I know that my body is the product of how I treat it, and so is yours. Some people have medical conditions which create tougher circumstances, but it’s still relatively manageable.

Listen, I definitely understand that gender equality, body shaming, and sexism are predominantly associated towards women. But why? I get that history and world events tell their own stories. But at some point, someone, somewhere, needs to begin speaking about the fact that it crosses every gender, every race, every body.

Everyone should feel comfortable in his or her own skin, and those who aren’t should not have to become anxious or terrified just to go outside for the fear of being criticized for how they look.

Mainstream society and social media has turned the focus of body shaming towards the idea that everyone is beautiful. And everyone is. It started with the unrealistic bodies of Barbie dolls, and Victoria’s Secret models, and a number of other things, in which it was stated that they were showing a faulty idea and misguided concept to young women as to what they should look like. Fair. But then it turned to plus-sized models becoming the new norm and the new beautiful. Fair again. But when does it stop? How skinny or how fat is just right for the public to become comfortable? Stupid fucking question if you ask me. Look how you look, who cares what anyone else thinks? Happiness is happiness.

And then came dad bod’s. I think I have a dad bod, even though I’m not a dad. Is that how it works? Why is body-shaming men who have, realistically, terrible looking bodies, okay among society? Women are now interested and looking for someone with a dad bod. How is that any different from a man who is looking for a slim-waisted woman? Everyone is attracted to something different, so why is it taboo to tell someone the truth? I don’t think there’s enough truth in this messed-up world.

And let’s be serious. Is body shaming really a big deal? (Hello, feminists 🙂 ) Look at 2016 in general (what a shitty year), among the copious amounts of issues I could dive into, I want to speak to one, and one alone, that truly summarizes the state of western society. The U.S. of A electing a misogynistic, demoralizing asshole as the man (I use the word man ever so slightly) to lead (yes, LEAD) the worlds largest super power. A tyrant that publicly shamed women for their bodies, on Twitter, BEFORE THE ELECTION EVEN HAPPENED. For a country of almost 350 million people to elect a type of man that, really, the world has been trying to get rid of, honestly isn’t even surprising.

I saw a picture on the internet not too long ago. It was a picture of a number of male CEO’s sitting in a conference room, listening to someone speak, with a few women CEO’s standing at the back of the room. The caption was something along the lines of, “Where are the women sitting at this meeting of CEO’s at the Mayor’s office? At the back of the room. Standing.”

Fair point, but its a double-edged sword. On one hand, what if you got there earlier? What if you asserted yourself, as you should as a CEO, and kept gender out of it? On the other hand, what if one of the male CEO’s stood up and offered you his seat – would you accept it? Or would it now become an issue of stance. A sexist gesture aimed at you because you are a woman. And then it turns into, “Why do you think I need to sit at the front? Because I’m a woman? I’m just as capable of standing at the back just like a man.” Again, fair point. But seriously, you can’t have it both ways.

At some point, you’re just going to have to stand up for yourself.

Don’t get me wrong, I understand that gender equality and body shaming and sexism are serious and detrimental issues that everyone truly needs to be aware of, and ultimately do what they can in their own way to help combat the problem.

But to be completely candid, we are what we make of these issues. They are only as powerful and as demeaning as we let them be. You are what you believe.


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